family: education or formatation

Traditional Family and Modern Family

It’s true that the Divine values don’t change but our interpretation evolves. Therefore, the interpreting ways of the basic values concerning to the family have been changing. Some have been too sudden and unfair because of the confusion that many people do about the most precious values of Understanding, Forgiveness and Love, without limits.

As for Love between humans it should be automatic but unfortunately we still far behind and it continues to happen only for merit and affinities. Throughout times major changes have been made and, in most cases, shocked the population more conservative. In my opinion, the first positive shock came when the first groups of human beings left the caves to create modern tribes with new rules of coexistence.

Thus, they abandoned the polygamy and the incest which represented the most evolutionary step made until today. Since then, families organized themselves and gradually created solid core of support and protection which Parents and Grandparents actively participated and, thus, the Children that grew in this environment earned conscious that later would have to take care of their Parents and Grandparents.

Thus, these bravest and evolved families have emmigrated to other regions which allowed the transmission of the acquired values and perpetuate the evolution. Since we’re talking about evolution, I’ve to put in evidence the 60’s, when society was shocked with the birth of the feminist movement. There were many reasons for women to revolt themselves against society because in those times men had an extreme domain.
However, I believe that this revolution was unprepared and allowed the confusion between many family values and habits which were secured and transmitted by the women, mothers and matriarchs. Thus, a sudden breakdown on the family traditions took place which made the society tipping to the other side and opened the libertinism doors.

From the debauchery resulted the vulgarity and from that resulted a continuous increasing of single mothers, and this fact strongly encouraged the separation between couples and later accelerated the divorce. I don’t want to point the finger or to blame the single mothers but it’s easy to understand that a child needs to grow both, father and mother, because the balance comes from complementarity. In this context, it’s good to remember that children are always the innocent in this kind of situations and are the ones that will have deep scars for the rest of their lives.

It’s obvious that all those changes created gaps in society which in our present days resulted in fewer exemplar families with appropriate moral and emotional stability and as a consequence of this the young generations have fewer references to pursue in life.

In the same context, the governments haven't been able to fulfill this gap with a teaching suitable mode because it never was created a school system sufficiently advanced and responsible with that kind of sense. In my humble opinion, only a well-organized pre-schools network can solve this problem. As a result, families and society continue to be affected in a overwhelming way.

In accordance with today’s life quality, most of children and teenagers spend more time alone than with their families, and the short moments that they spend with their families, parents excuse themselves with the lack of time. In my opinion that is partially true, I think it's more a lack of willingness and a lack of responsibility sense with their children education and not a lack of time, because who truly Loves and is truly responsible, always have time to everything that consider essential and precious. Either for lack of time or for lack of attention many questions will remain without answer or that leads to inhibition, sadness and frustration.

The next step of this chain reaction is the teenagers "fatal skidding" such as the refuge in tobacco, alcohol and drugs which sadly have been increasing, and beyond of this addictions, violence is often followed. So, I wonder when public authorities talk about modernity and change, how can they talk in such an irresponsible way when they haven't demonstrated ability to develop the education system appropriate to the current needs.

As for modernity and the need of change, I’m one of those people who want to change the world, without radical attitudes because extremes are always dangerous. A Teacher once was a student but to keep being a Teacher has to be a good student all his life, because if he refuses to keep on learning then he shouldn’t remain in teaching. A good Teacher is a diamond cutter and a discoverer of talents and he should be proud to see in their own students qualities that sometimes he doesn't have!

WHO SCREAMS DETAINS THE REASON OR DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO TALK AND HAVE A CONVERSATION?

There’s many people screaming out there but people with less or none education screams more and coward people screams a lot more! If conflicts were resolved with screams we'd be in Peace for a long time! But who screams for no reason doesn't realize the sad figure that does. There’s many people screaming out there but there are especially cowards, grumpy, suspicious and jealous people screaming a lot more just because they don’t have what it takes to face life with good manners.

In general, who always wakes up angry doesn’t live and doesn’t let live in Peace because watch and don’t see, hears and don’t understand, because doesn’t stops to think for a while. Who doesn't know to listen and never stops to think, it's improbable to ever recognize their mistakes and will forget to evolve. Lives in the distrust illusion, in the falsehood and revenge, and even forgets to live because doesn’t know what it’s doing!

IF YOU WANT TO GO FORWARD IN THIS LIFE, STOP, LOOK, LISTEN AND STOP SCREAMING
BECAUSE IF SOMEONE HEARS YOU AND DOESN’T ANSWER IS BECAUSE THEY DON’T WANT TO MIMIC YOU!

Try to understand the beauty of Life, even in adversity, and learn how to grow up with your enemy’s examples!

So that your life doesn’t become a flop improve your moral and civic education, increase your Faith, consolidate your Hope and introduce yourself to life with a willingness to learn and to serve human causes.

And remember, those who have less luck more sacrifices have to do. So, start right now so that tomorrow become better than today! It's in honest sharing that we find happiness so don't waste your time with selfishness!
And remember, if your dreams are consistent with the will of God it will eventually come true if don't wait seated!

If you want be Loved start by Loving, if you want be forgiven start by forgive, if you want be served start by serving, if you want to live in Peace start by building that same Peace inside of you and spread it around you without condition. If you want to feel the smooth of Happiness start by transmitting your wisdom with humility, so that nothing can get lost, and be Happy with the Happiness reflection of other caused by you!

The life reference values are undoubtedly the Education which facilitates access to the knowledge, knowledge that leads to the civility rules understanding, and the Love that leads to understand everything that the science coldness ignores!